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1. Continuing past resolutions. I've made some good New Year's resolutions in the past that I really liked, so I'm just going to keep them up this year. I'd like to keep in better touch with friends by having a phone call or Skype date with someone once a week. I also will stick to my resolution that when I think of something nice to say to someone, I'm going to say it! What's the harm in giving a compliment? And I will try my best not to keep ice cream in the house, and limit my intake of chai lattes, bubble tea, and Rita's Italian ice. No sense in eating food with no nutritional value.
2. Taking better care of my skin. For about the past year, the skin on my chin has not been cooperating; it's been kind of bumpy and dry. So I'm going to use my Clarisonic brush several times a week, as well as use a mask on my face once a week. More exfoliating and more moisturizing!
3. Going to Shabbat more often. In the last six months, I have only been to services a couple of times. But every time I go, I feel happy: I get to see my friends, enjoy some good food, and it just calms me. 2016 was quite the roller coaster, and I need more peace in my life. Connecting with God and the Jewish community will allow me to feel more rooted and relaxed, which is how I want to feel in 2017.
4. Giving up online dating. I don't mean forever, but at least for 2017. I used OkCupid through a lot of 2012 and OkC/Match/eHarmony for roughly the last year, and nothing came of either of those searches. I want to actually look forward to a date, rather than feeling relieved when a guy cancels on me. I want to be excited when someone leans in to kiss me, rather than being absolutely apathetic to his touch. I want to feel a true connection, rather than setting the bar as low as "I hope he's not a total jerk and that he offers to pick up the tab." Dating is supposed to be fun, not a chore, and for the last year, it's been like a homework assignment I'm trying to get done so I can turn in my "single" card. But all of the dates have led to nothing more than meeting men who "want to keep things casual" or who seemed like a good fit, only to find out they aren't what I'm looking for (and I wasn't a right fit for them, either). While I won't say all of this was a waste of time, it certainly was exhausting, and I'd like 2017 to be a more restorative year.
5. Doing things I thought I'd never do. Everyone who knows me knows that I'm a planner: I like routine and stability, and perhaps you could say I'm "rigid." In 2017, I want to be more spontaneous and stop setting imaginary barriers for myself. I want to say "Go for it!" instead of thinking, "No, you better not." I've already got a few plans on how to do this, but you'll have to wait for future blog posts to find out what they are...But I did ring in the new year with an ice luge shot, which is definitely a first!
What are your New Year's resolutions?