by Oriah Mountain Dreamer
It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living.
I want to know what you ache for,
And if you dare to dream of meeting
Your heart’s longing.
It doesn’t interest me how old you are.
I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool
For love, for your dream,
For the adventure of being alive.
It doesn’t interest me what planets are squaring your moon.
I want to know if you have touched the center of your own sorrow,
If you have been opened by life’s betrayals,
Or have become shriveled and closed from fear of further pain.
I want to know if you can sit with pain,
Mine or your own,
To hide it or fade it or fix it.
I want to know if you can be with joy,
Mine or your own,
If you can dance with wildness and let the ecstasy fill you to the tips of your fingers and toes
Without cautioning us to be careful, realistic, to remember the limitations of being human.
It doesn’t interest me if the story you are telling me is true.
I want to know if you can disappoint another to be true to yourself,
If you can bear the accusation of betrayal and not betray your own soul.
I want to know if you can be faithless and therefore be trustworthy.
I want to know if you can see beauty
Even when it is not pretty every day,
And if you can source your own life
From its presence.
I want to know if you can live with failure,
Yours and mine,
And still stand on the edge of a lake and shout to the silver of the full moon,
It doesn’t interest me to know where you live or how much money you have.
I want to know if you can get up after the night of grief and despair,
Weary and bruised to the bone,
And do what needs to be done for the children.
It doesn’t interest me who you are, how you came to be here.
I want to know if you will stand
In the center of the fire with me
And not shrink back.
It doesn’t interest me where or what or with whom you have studied.
I want to know what sustains you
From the inside
When all else falls away.
I want to know if you can be alone
And if you truly like the company you keep
In the empty moments.
I think the poem really encompasses the idea of looking for "The One" (if there is such a thing). Yes, when you meet someone you ask them about his job, his education, where he lives, etc. But in the end, that stuff doesn't matter at all when you're in love. It doesn't matter what he does for a living: what's important is whether or not that is his dream career and if he has aspirations for more. It's all about character, not the prestige of a fancy diploma or a mansion on the outskirts of the city. Can he stay by your side in the hardest of times? Can he work through failure? And the last stanza is my favorite: Is he confident in the man he is? Is he complete in himself without anyone else? I've never liked the saying, "You complete me" because every person should be himself/herself without depending on another human being. So make sure you are complete before looking for that special someone: only you can fill any void you think you have. Once you are at peace with yourself, THEN love will come.